My Wife Never Says She Loves Me: My Wife Doesn’t Make Me Happy
My wife never says she loves me - My wife doesn’t make me happy.
Does your wife love you? You can't help but wonder. The dynamic of your relationship with her has certainly shifted from the day you two were married. Gone are the days when you used to feel her love for you completely. Now you two focus mainly on raising your children and paying the bills. The romance has vanished and with it went your connection. It concerns you and for good reason. You're insightful enough to recognize that this may very well be the first sign of something dramatic happening in your marriage. Don't panic just yet. Your wife may still love you very much but you're just not recognizing her actions or behavior as such because it's changed so much from the way it used to be. There are a few signs that your wife is still just as crazy about you today as she was when you two first got together.
You can definitely tell if your wife still loves you if she's constantly talking about things you two are going to do together in the future. If she's never mentioned the idea of a separation or divorce and instead she talks excitedly about the idea of you two growing old together, it's a lifetime love for her. She's invested herself completely in your marriage and you can take great comfort in that.
When a woman loves her husband she'll make little gestures that demonstrate how she feels. They may not be the most romantic things, especially after a couple has been together for many years, but they hold special meaning. One good is example of this is the wife who makes her husband's lunch or dinner for him. This silently shows that she likes taking care of him and wants to ensure that he's well fed and happy. Another example is a wife who makes her husband's doctor and dentist appointments for him. This may just seem like a polite thing to do but it suggests that she wants to take care of him and make certain that he gets the medical attention he needs to stay healthy for her.
Does your wife have a specific pet name for you? Pet names in relationships are definitely a sign of affection and they can disappear once a woman starts to feel emotionally disconnected from her husband. If your wife still continues to call you the sweet names she did early in your relationship, her heart definitely still belongs to you.
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I have never come across anyone who says they enjoy being a victim. However, over and over I see people playing the victim card in their marriages. Why do they do it? The answer is it is often habit, and much of the time, they are not fully conscious of doing it. So let's look at a few of the more blatant indicators of victimhood.
Sign one: The first and most obvious sign of playing the victim card is blaming and criticism. The minute you blame your partner for anything, you are making yourself the victim. Perhaps not as obvious, you criticize your partner because you feel like a victim of a marriage relationship with a less-than-ideal partner.
Sign two: The second sign of victimhood is subservience or subordination to your partner. This form of victimhood often grows out a traditional family structure where the male is the major breadwinner. However, earning the most money is a role, not a right to dominate. You are still equal partners, so don't allow yourself to sink into a subservient position (victim) for money reasons or any other reason. If you do, the probability is high that you will be exhibiting sign number one as well.
Sign three: The third sign that the victim card is being played in a marriage is rightness and bullying. The one who insists on being right, that is, the one who bullies the other into accepting their point of view, has at least a subconscious belief they are being victimized by their partner. Feel the emotional difference between, "This is what I prefer," and "This is the right way."
Aside: When people with an intense need to be right become fanatics, and, yes, fanaticism is just an extreme form of rightness, they see themselves as victims of an imperfect world, not just of an imperfect marriage with an imperfect partner. We all know such smiling but unhappy people.
Sign four: Chronic unhappiness. This sign can be tricky, because you could be going through a genuinely unhappy time that is not at all a reflection on your marriage. Nevertheless, with that caveat, chronic unhappiness is often a sign that at least one of you feels victimized by your marriage. The often-silent refrain is, "If only I had stayed single...", "If only I hadn't married such a loser...", or "If only I had got an education before I married..." Each of these could signify a feeling of being stuck as a victim of a bad choice.
The solution is simple, although seldom easy. Take responsibility for your feelings and your life. Get help if you need it, but refuse to be a victim...or a victimizer.
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Anyone who has ever ventured into the home of a many years' happily married couple has probably seen the Happy Marriage Recipe hanging in the kitchen. You know the one, it lists several "ingredients" just like a regular recipe, but the ingredients are love, hope, tenderness, forgiveness, warmth, faith and laughter.
It even lists how many cups of each and how to "mix" the ingredients. It may seem like a silly thing, but there is some credence to the Happy Marriage Recipe that should be considered as you create your own recipe.
The first ingredient listed is always love. Now love can mean many things to many people, but let's look at it paraphrased from Webster's. Love is a strong affection, warm attachment, devotion, tenderness and admiration for another. Keeping love, in its' many forms, in your happy marriage recipe will hold on to those things you feel so deeply for your spouse. Remember the affection you feel toward your spouse and your devotion and attachment will continue to grow.
The definition of love, itself, covers warmth and tenderness, so let's take a look at hope. Hope, when it comes to your marriage, is vital. Without it, there can be nothing to look forward to. Many couples find themselves hoping to have a better marriage, or a stronger one. Maybe they hope to have children, or they hope to someday afford a home. Hope gives you something to look forward to and strive for.
A large and very important ingredient in any happy marriage recipe is forgiveness. We all know that eventually we will do something that will hurt or disappoint our partner. We ask for forgiveness, and for a truly happy marriage, forgiveness is given. That is not to say that it will be given immediately, depending on the circumstances.
You may have to weather some foul moods for a while, but if your spouse is following the happy marriage recipe, they will find their way to give you forgiveness. After all, someday it may be them asking you for forgiveness, and you need to find a way to do it.
In a happy marriage, faith in each other to do the right thing and make good choices is often taken for granted. When it comes right down to it, faith is one of the most important bonds there can be between two people. Maybe it's just the faith that one will go to work and bring home a salary, and one will stay home with the children. This is not taking things for granted; it is simply having faith that the each will perform to the other's standards.
Finally, laughter is often listed as the last ingredient in the happy marriage recipe. However, it has been found that laughter in a marriage keeps people together. It may be just laughter at a silly joke, or maybe some crazy antic by the cat that resulted in a broken vase. Finding ways to laugh about things that may make you want to cry instead, can be a magical cure-all to a tough situation.
You CAN save your marriage - even if your spouse says that they want a divorce.
You CAN rebuild that passion you felt for one another when you first kissed. And you can bring back that love and devotion you felt for one another when both of you said, "I love you" for the first time.
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